By Fr. Brian A. Graebe, First Things - Regardless of their historical accuracy, the life and death of St. Valentine remind us that love is not a feeling or an emotion; nothing of permanence can stand upon such shaky ground. Rather, love is a choice, an act of the will that puts another’s good ahead of our own. Real love always involves sacrifice, dying to oneself so that the other can live and grow and flourish. The greatest symbol of love, then, is not Cupid, but the Cross. There we see the ultimate example of self-sacrificing love, as God himself dies so that we might live. ...