By Wendell Hull, Crisis Magazine - Fathers pass on to their children a part of them different than mothers. We did not bear our children. Instead, we watched the process of in utero growth and birth from afar. From there, we live with, in, and through our children as they mature into adulthood and independence. We do not nurse them or salve their wounds like their mothers. We give advice, impart knowledge and skills, jest, and wrestle with them. We also discipline and lead them in right ways. If we fail, or if the vagaries of life take our children, the loss adds to our pain the insult of a trenchant sense of failure.