By Rob Marco, Crisis Magazine, April 2, 2025
Rob Marco is a married father of three. He holds a MA in Theology from Villanova University. Rob has appeared on EWTN’s “The Journey Home” and his writing has been featured at OnePeterFive, Catholic World Report, Catholic Stand, Catholic Education Resource Center, SpiritualDirection.com, and other Catholic publications. He is the author of Wisdom and Folly: Collected Essays on Faith, Life, and Everything in Between (Cruachan Hill Press), and his upcoming book Coached by Philip Neri (Scepter) will be published Summer 2025.
I’m doing all the “right” things—praying, weekly Mass and Holy Hours, daily Rosary, almsgiving, giving God His due—and still not progressing in any discernable degree of holiness.
I turned 45 this year, just a few days after Ash Wednesday. Here in the Northeast, it had been an especially grueling winter for me: taxing on the mental health front, forlorn feelings of monotony and seemingly never-ending days of cold winds and gray skies. Celebrative holidays had come and gone, and I was perversely looking forward to the start of Lent to help kick things in gear.
Ascetic practices are nothing new for me. I have been taking cold showers every morning for the past few years, both for the penance and the benefits of cold exposure, and doing periodic extended fasts. This past summer, I quit a pernicious 25-year nicotine habit cold turkey, mostly because I was sick and tired of being a slave. As if that wasn’t punishment enough, I also quit caffeine cold turkey a few months later—to try to get my blood pressure down but also to eschew the dependency I had developed on the drug. …