Note: We’ve been hearing from many people upset over a recent Twitter attack by Cardinal Napier of South Africa on Raymond Arroyo and the Papal Posse. The cardinal – who was a force for good during the Synods on the Family – unleashed an obviously overwrought blast, comparing Arroyo to Ian Paisley, the anti-Catholic bigot and firebrand in Northern Ireland during the 1960s and 1970s. A good account of the controversy may be found here. It’s an unfortunate fact that the divisions in the Church under Pope Francis sometimes result in a kind of blind emotionalism, on all sides. At The Catholic Thing – and in our EWTN commentary – we’ve tried to be accurate and fair: and above all faithful to Scripture, the deposit of Faith, and the tradition. Others may read events differently than we do, but we try to speak the truth as we see it while avoiding bias or personal attacks of any kind. By the way, a brief reminder that our Papal Posse colleague Fr. Gerald Murray will be honored at the Benedict Groeschel Awards Dinner in New York City next week. Tickets and information are available here – and the entire Papal Posse will be at the event, live in public for the very first time. – Robert Royal
If “love” and “law” seem like opposites to you – if you have the idea that one can just “love and do what you will” – then consider this popular passage:
Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
Many people admire this passage. You will often hear it at weddings, even non-Christian weddings. People hang it on posters with pictures of sunflowers. It is, admittedly, very beautiful. So let’s take a moment and think about what it means.
If we take the passage seriously, then we have to ask ourselves some revealing, and potentially troubling, questions about how “loving” we actually are. Becoming more “loving” or “being a loving person” is perhaps a bit too vague for most people. So perhaps we should make a list based on the passage and ask ourselves several more concrete personal questions.
Do you see? If you love the sound of that passage in 1 Corinthians 13, and if you have long thought there was something very “right” or “true” about it, then consider the list and ask yourself, “How loving am I – really?”
Notice, we haven’t said, “The Church tells you that you must do x, y, and z.” (Catholics have all those rules, it is said.) Or “you are commanded by the Bible to do these things, or you will go to Hell.” (What are we, Protestants? Although to be fair, the Protestants have often helpfully reminded us that you don’t “earn” your way into heaven by good works.)
Those may all be legitimate considerations, but we have not touched upon any of them here. The question isn’t whether I or anyone else likes that passage from 1 Corinthians; the question is whether you do; and if you do, what are you willing to do – what changes are you willing to make in your life – if you think it is true?
This isn’t a question of whether you want to be “moral” or “a good Christian.” Right now, we are simply asking whether you are the person you say you want to be, and whether you are willing to become the person you say you want to become – the kind of person you say you admire. To point out that there is an “internal logic” or “inner consistency” to love is not the same thing as commanding that you act a certain way or even that you become more loving. That choice is yours.
Nor am I posing as someone who is an “expert” – as someone especially good at being loving myself. We have been guided by that beautiful passage in 1 Corinthians 13 which is widely admired by people of all faiths as a counsel of great wisdom. If it is – and many people seem to think it is – then the question we must ask is: How would these words apply in my life?
If this passage sounds like a good description of love, and if I want to be a loving person, then isn’t it important to ask whether the person described in that passage sounds anything like me? Or, to be honest, perhaps not so much?
If, upon reflection, we become aware of ways in which we have failed to love (and remember, “fail” not in the eyes of the Church, but in the sense of not meeting standards of love we ourselves affirm), then for us, the “Good News” could be that, despite these failures, there is still hope.
The Christian message is that the love that made us and the entire universe is a love so great that it entered into our fallenness and became incarnate as a human person to show us that God’s love can overcome even our lack of love. As 1 John 4 tells us, we love because God has loved us first.
A human life without selfless love of the sort described in 1 Corinthians 13 is like a sunflower without sun. It soon withers and dies. So like the sunflower, we need to keep ourselves turned towards the sun and then take that sunshine into ourselves and turn it into something beautiful.
If you think you can rejoice in wrongdoing; indulge in envy, boasting, arrogance and rudeness to others; insist always on your own way; spend your life being irritable and resentful; and repeatedly ignore the truth; and still flourish like the healthy sunflower, well, then, may I suggest you just haven’t yet understood 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.
*Image: The Wedding Candles by Marc Chagall, 1945 [private collection]