Planned Parenthood recently released their “Guide to ‘Dealing With Difficult’ [i.e. Pro-Life] People at Thanksgiving.”
I thought to myself, wow, Planned Parenthood actually had a great idea. Well, they had the inverse of a great idea, anyway. Pro-Lifers should have their own Holiday Guide to Dealing with Pro-Choicers!
… And it should include a healthy dose of A Christmas Story GIFs …
So, I reached out to some of my Pro-Life advocate friends and sidewalk counselors to see what they would include in such a guide, as well as rebutting what Planned Parenthood included in their guide.
SO WHAT WOULD A PRO-LIFE CHRISTMAS GUIDE LOOK LIKE?
Remember that, over and above the case you make, they are going to remember how you made them feel, and whether you spoke with compassion. This is perhaps especially true with it being the holidays.
Here’s the catch:
If the situation is such that you can’t speak calmly, listen attentively, and have compassion and respect for all concerned (the woman, the abortionist, the baby, the person you’re talking to) then perhaps you should consider leaving the discussion for another time. [Cody & Mary Reed of Pro-Life Encounters]
Have a clearly articulated and brief summation of your view prepared. A great example is the 10 second pro–life position composed by Steve Wagner of Justice for All. It’s thought provoking and creates a great foundation for further discussion.
Here’s the 10-second Pro-Life Apologist:
– If it has human parents, it must be human.
– And living humans, human beings like you and me, are valuable aren’t they?
(4) Don’t Be Afraid
(5) Understand the Motivation
Try to understand the motivation for their position.
It is most likely something that you can identify with (e.g. concern that women in crisis pregnancies be able to pursue their hopes, plans, and dreams).
Capitalize on that common concern. Bond over that, and from there discuss whether abortion moves us in a positive or negative direction (e.g. does it help women pursue their goals, or hinder them). [Cody & Mary Reed of Pro-Life Encounters]
(7) Ask Questions
Make sure you’re not making assumptions about their position.
They say they’re pro choice. But are they in favor of abortion for all nine months? Are they in favor for any reason? E.g. for gender selection? Do they think abortion is ethical? Or do they think it is wrong, but believe it should be legal?
People waste a lot of time attacking positions that their opponents don’t even adhere to. Make sure you both are taking the time to understand precisely what you disagree and agree on.
You might be surprised by how much you have in common.
[Cody & Mary Reed of Pro-Life Encounters]
Make sure you are clearly distinguishing between the scientific, ethical, situational topics of the conversation.
When the life of a human individual begins is a scientific issue. It is factual, and should be discussed in factual terms.
The value of the unborn is a philosophical and ethical issue, and should be discussed in that framework. For those topics you can inquire about their position on the death penalty, on animal cruelty, etc. and find parallels to abortion.
[Cody & Mary Reed of Pro-Life Encounters]
(9) Compare To A Toddler
When faced with an argument or reason for abortion, ask yourself whether it works to justify killing obvious examples of rights-bearing human beings, such as newborn babies, toddlers, teenagers and adults. If not, it assumes that the being killed by abortion, the unborn (i.e., the human embryo or “fetus”), is not an intrinsically valuable human being, like toddlers and teenagers—that is, it simply assumes the very conclusion it must defend. [LifeSiteNews]
For example, a woman should not have a “right to choose” to drown her toddler in the bathtub. The question at hand is whether the unborn, like a toddler, deserves full moral respect and ought not be killed for the convenience or benefit of others. If so, killing the unborn by abortion, like killing a toddler for the same reasons, is a serious moral wrong. [LifeSiteNews]
(10) Objective, Not Subjective Truth
Avoid the phrase “I believe that life begins at conception” like the plague. You don’t “believe” it. It is scientific fact.
Every time a pro-life person uses this phrase, they undermine the pro-life movement, and unwittingly assist the pro choice movement in portraying our position as a religious or ideological one.
Many pro choice people have been told their whole lives that the pro–life position centers around religious ideology. It doesn’t any more than opposition to slavery, sex trafficking, or child abuse. [Cody & Mary Reed of Pro-Life Encounters]
Be satisfied with planting seeds. Changing hearts and minds takes time!
Don’t feel that you’ve failed if the person you’re talking to doesn’t seem convinced. Be a compassionate, respectful, and joyful representative of the pro-life movement, and leave them with things to think about. That’s how hearts are changed. [Cody & Mary Reed of Pro-Life Encounters]
ARE YOU STILL WONDERING WHAT THE PLANNED PARENTHOOD GUIDE LOOKS LIKE?
(12) Don’t treat the other side with contempt
Guess How Planned Parenthood Starts Off Their Holiday Guide?Here are the opening paragraphs of Planned Parenthood’s Guide. I kid you not. This is real PPH material. You just can’t make this stuff up:
Visiting family for Thanksgiving can be challenging. Your dinner companions may say hurtful, offensive things about race, gender identity, sexual harassment and assault, birth control coverage, abortion, or any number of topics — which can feel stressful, isolating, or enraging.
“Right off the bat, they’re presenting the other person in terms of contempt,” says Mary Reed of Pro-Life Encounters. The implicit statement here is this: people who are against abortion are also racist, homophobic, misogynistic, and sexually abusive.
NEXT, SEE WHERE PLANNED PARENTHOOD DEMEANS THEIR OWN PEOPLE
Here is Planned Parenthood’s first tips on how to deal with your family when things get hard:
1. Self care: Make decisions about what to do around Thanksgiving so you feel safe, whether that means not going home at all, going home with a friend or partner by your side, or only visiting for dinner.
2. Build allyship with family members who love and respect you: The more people in your family who can call people out (or even better, call people in) on their problematic behavior, the less acceptable it will be.
“Self care” is the first tip. Always think of yourself first, right? You have to do what’s important for you, first and foremost, not your baby and not your family – right? No, that’s how society falls apart. That’s how families fall apart.
Planned Parenthood is implicitly telling its people that they are weak and vulnerable. Planned Parenthood is setting itself up as the protector when the big, bad wolf comes along.
“Not going home at all”?? This is insidious. Planned Parenthood knows that people who are isolated from their families are much more likely to get an abortion. Here, they’re actually encouraging the separation of families at the holidays.
“Call people out … on their problematic behavior.” Planned Parenthood’s next provides some strategy for creating family strife. “Allyship” is their way of saying gang up on the pro-lifers. Bully them, if you have to.
What else do you think should be included on this list?
Did this guide help you? Were you able to apply any of these tips?