By Michael Foster, The Federalist - The core problem is that nice guys’ self-sacrifice is rooted in a falsehood. It’s not motivated by strength or obedience to God — it’s motivated by insecurity and fear... For years, I’ve watched men in the Church try to gain respect by being nice and fail miserably. They serve, they sacrifice, they bend over backward to please everyone around them, especially their wives. But it doesn’t lead to the life they expected... Instead of respect, they get resentment. Instead of admiration, they get indifference. They’re overlooked, not honored. Their efforts go unnoticed, their sacrifices unappreciated.